What life taught me for my kids?

My kid had his pre-birthday celebrations recently. He was happy. We were happy. It should have been the end of the story.

But I took out the camera and started capturing the moment. There was a brawl involved where he was fighting for blowing the candles with his cousin. It could have been the end of the story since we laughed it out.

But i uploaded it on social media and slept. The next day the comments started pouring in on my child’s reaction and my upbringing. That’s where the story never ended and spiraled. Later I deleted the post for good and had to cleanse my social media.

This is what life is with kids.

You think you have the sweetest child one could possibly ask for but someone comes up to you and points out the flaw in your kid and your whole parenting journey tumbles in front of you. So here are the few takeaways that I learnt from life with my kids.

You do have the sweetest child in the world. Period.

Nobody can take that away from you. Kids are very reciprocal. The moment you sense fear from them, they give you trouble. But if you believe in them they respond with the same energy.

Your child is not your possession.

Your child is a walking, breathing and thinking human that has his/her set of likes and dislikes. You cannot project your fantasies over your kid. He/she needs to learn everything at his/her own pace.

No mother is perfect.

Having a bad day in parenting does not make you a bad mom. You need to stop stressing and remind yourself, often in that case, that it’s okay if you just found out about a new parenting technique. You still can redo, rewrite, and amend your actions to be a better version of yourself.

No child is perfect.

The better, simpler versions of kids available right in front of you do not make your child flawed. He/she is already doing the best he/she can in his/her limited capacity. It’s always the action that needs correction, not the kid.

Flaunt your motherly milestones

Life is going to be a bitch. And with the memory like ours we tend to forget the mere regular child-rearing days. So remember those days where it was a struggle but ended on a good note. Capture those moments; journal those memories; talk it out to your spouse. Embrace that feeling of triumph in a pool of diapers, bottles and pacifiers.

There’s always going to be one person who would end up not liking your kid.

You just have to let it go. A person who is already judging a child over his/her actions does not deserve your attention. Walk away from them. And don’t forget to take along your kid with you!

We all are in this together.

Remember every mother in this journey is afraid of raising her kids in a certain way. Don’t magnify their suspicions by your unsolicited advice. Give help when asked. But give compassion as much as you can.

Give yourself a break.

Trust me; your kid will still love you if you haven’t made his/her favorite breakfast every morning. He/she is still going to love you even when you doubt yourself as a mother. That’s the beauty of love; it finds its way in most irrational places

Wanting to know how you can give yourself a break? Read it here: https://jjzee.blogspot.com/2018/07/maa-ka-sahara.html